July 30, 2020
Lena Paul Facebook channel: My notifications went into a tizzy when I dared post a poem celebrating femininity along with photos of me in lingerie….
My notifications went into a tizzy when I dared post a poem celebrating femininity along with photos of me in lingerie. “A woman who sells her sex for money can’t celebrate her own femininity!” As if my trade isn’t a constant meditation on how to protect my spirit (as are all of ours); as if a woman who’s gone through the crucible of being born in a part of the world that told her that wanting to be touched (and touched often) was a pathology hasn’t done deep emotional self w…ork and investment. As if someone who embraces their sexuality on a public stage doesn’t spend hours in therapy, in book clubs, in prayer closets, reconciling a society of young men who simultaneously jerk off with one hand and point fingers with the other. Your belief that my work is an expression of my self worth is your problem, not mine, friend. Shame doesn’t get to live rent-free in my head anymore like the rest of the wider populace. What would your life be like if you left your shame and self-castigation on the altar? I left that right next to my “dignity,” whatever that is. You can keep that. I’ll keep my flexible schedule and ability to be there for my family (the blood and non-blood kind). I’ll keep my ability to celebrate sexuality with my friends that I choose to work and make art with, you keep your purity. Keep your skepticism, your narrow definitions of what a good woman is, your sexual repression. I’ll be celebrating my sex, my power, my victory with those that will listen. To those that don’t, I wish you every success and happiness. Lighting a candle tonight for all the men who post hateful messages, who feel entitled to my time, owed a debate or a justification of my career or existence. I owe you nothing. Ponder why Christ preferred the company of whores over the genteel Pharisees, if your moral convictions lead you to question my assuredness in my own path. Join me in a space that isn’t full of hate but acceptance and understanding that just because someone’s path isn’t the one you would take or want for your loved ones doesn’t mean it isn’t the path they are supposed to be on. Lay down your burden of being the sole arbiter of decent living. I love all of you. 🥰See More